Dream 2 (August / September 2000)
Dream: I was in half a house with my mother, (who didn't look like my mother). On the other side of the house was a garden. My father came, (who didn't look like my father) and pulled a green curtain across the half of the house that was missing. My mother and I went out to the garden where my father was. She was looking at the 3 plants that she had put in the garden, each were of different heights. I was sitting in the middle of my father and mother and my father wanted to speak to my mother who was watching her garden, he yelled at her to look at him when he was speaking to her. I was a child in this dream. Next I am in my own house with my father inside, when my brother came inside (my brother looked like my son) and said he had parked his plane in the driveway that he had just bought and he couldn't turn the engine off and it was stuck in the driveway. I went outside to have a look and I tried to turn the motor off but smoke started coming out of the driving wheel shaft and I couldn't turn the engine off. Next my father came out of the house and said lets test the plane for strength. He got in the plane and put his back to the dash and pushed as hard as he could. He broke the plane. The tail end of the plane came apart. My brother (who looked like my son) looked at me in distress. I then woke up.
Quentin's Diagnosis: Family matters are a natural concern for a mother. Knowing when to help, but always watching over them. You seem to have an emptiness inside, thus the half a house. Your mothering side to nurture is drawing lessons from your own life in the past and relating it to the present situation. The 3 plants represent your mother, father and you. Your mother's role to create the home/house is seen in the half a house that you and your mother occupy in the dream. Your father's half was an empty space, closing himself off by pulling the curtain across half the house, thus he didn't connect in the same way, believing that he was not being seen, maybe seeing his role in the garden/outside. The strength your father could have greatly impressed you with your first memory of his temper or domineering nature and you are now seeing it with a male your family. Perhaps your father had a good regime for work, rest and play. When your brother comes home with the plane, suggests that he had the opportunity to fly off in that direction, but it seems like your father broke his spirit in some way. Thus saying, take the good qualities and beliefs of one generation, and clear the negative fears, doubts and limitations of the past, to heal the path to the future. It may be that your son is working very hard for himself and can't switch off or take a break. That's when we're at our most fragile. Stress management and a holiday could fix that. Ask your brother about his relationship with your father, he may be more in tune that you think.
Affirmations: To clearly understand the limitations of your past, ask yourself what positive traits of my parents do I want to embody and what negative traits do I no longer wish to continue in my life.