Mary (October / November 2000)
Dream: I dreamt that I was in hospital. I remember feeling confused as I am due to have reconstructive surgery in December and in my dream I couldn't work out how I got there. This was explained by a nurse who said that I had passed out and was hospitalised immediately. There was pandemonium in the hospital, with staff running to attend to other patients who were in grave danger. All of a sudden I found myself surrounded by family. My mum was there, my aunty and uncle, my son and then my sister arrived with her son. My hospital bed was larger than normal and so my sister was lying down next to me. As the bed was so large I didn't realise that she was there until I had to turn that way. I pleaded with my sister to change sides as I was in pain and needed to lie differently to ease the pain. She refused, so I appealed to my mother to help out, but she didn't provide any support. I went over to my sister's side and tried to squeeze her back to the other side. As I edged myself onto the bed and tried to get comfor table, a young boy (16 years old), appeared in front of my window dangling on the end of a bed sheet. I yelled to my aunty and uncle to pull him in, but it took them a while to fully comprehend the seriousness of the situation. I was desperately trying to cover my six year old son's eyes and motioning to my sister to do the same with her son who is 12. As I was covering to hide my own eyes, the boy let go and fell to his death. At that point I woke up feeling like an emotional wreck. What does this mean?
Quentin's Diagnosis: Dear Mary, ... or should I say dear emotional wreck? Never fear, this dream is telling you that you've passed out of grave danger, thus the nurse who said that you had passed out and were hospitalised immediately, meaning you were treated in time. Pandemonium in a hospital is normal and an eye opener to be surrounded by other patients with greater illnesses. You are surrounded by the strength of the family. The hospital bed which was larger than normal is saying you need rest and space. Seeing your sister and pleading with her to change sides of the bed as you were in pain, is pointing to some issue you may have unresolved with your sister and also mirroring the similarity between you and your sister with regards to stubbornness. You then ask for your mother to help but she didn't provide any support. This is where the type of emotional support we need is not always met nor understood. Ask yourself who nurtures you? What is it you haven't forgiven your sister for? This issue that your sister wasn't prepared to nurture your needs may go back to early childhood. Whatever was done came to a head when you reached 16 years. With the 51% female comes 49% male and at 16 years you enter that realm of power to balance the two.The male side of you was seeking attention and wanted more. Now you're shielding your own son from the horrors of life and from losing his masculinity in the real world.